Two years after the divorce, the woman told her Daily mail first-person experience of living with a man who is addicted to sex. She begins by saying that when she came home from work, her husband greeted her in the kitchen with a “warm hug” before taking her to the bedroom. “Then we had sex for the second time that day… and the umpteenth time that week.”
“Given that we have been married for 30 years, it was a miracle that the flame of passion continued to burn to such an extent. After all, the days when we are unable to resist each other usually decrease after the first few years. The truth is that Michael was a sex addict. “Not only was his insatiable desire for intimacy unexciting, unsatisfying and unflattering, but it caused me physical pain and destroyed my self-esteem – and, ultimately, our marriage,” he said.
The woman says that she felt lonely for a long time and even thought that it was her problem that she could not respond to the enthusiasm of her husband Michael. “Reading something like this would help me understand that it’s not my fault and that there is a way out.”
“Michael wanted sex several times a day and ignored my pleas to be tired, telling me he knew I liked it. I didn’t dare talk to my friends, but when I immediately sought help from a psychologist, he told me that she had been repeatedly raped and coerced,” says the woman, who, because of her determination not to subject her children to a difficult divorce, tolerated this situation more than two decades.
From suggesting she use sex toys, play the role of a nurse, to watching her have sexual relationships with other men, these were the requests of the man who stayed in a marriage that produced three children.
“Even though I felt very awkward, I accepted many of these offers because I didn’t want to risk alienating him. Unfortunately, the more I got involved, the more he wanted,” he explains.
However, Mikhail does not accept non-sexual physical contact – neither a touch of the hand, nor a farewell kiss before work. “He ignored all that to get straight to the point.”
“Marriage did nothing to reduce his insatiable desire for sex. I couldn’t get off the couch or turn on the dishwasher after dinner without him groping my breasts and fondling my private parts. It was all uninvited and unwanted attention.” According to her, her ex-husband wanted sex in the morning when he returned from work or when he attacked her when she was getting ready to go out with friends in the evening. Michael even waited until his wife returned from the party to have sex.
The woman goes further in her confessions and recalls one of the episodes that she remembers. “Shortly after we got married, I woke up early in the morning and found him inside me. I pushed him away in disgust. However, he didn’t seem to understand why I was upset. and this was repeated repeatedly during the remainder of the marriage. I lived in fear of falling asleep because I never knew what would happen to me.”
Even though the woman was able to understand that it was rape because the fact that she was sleeping meant it wasn’t consensual, the woman didn’t want to believe it and I tried to normalize the situation like couples do.
“In five years, we had three children, who are now about 20 years old. I made sure to ask the midwife when I could have sex again in front of Michael to hear the answer: Many couples wait for the woman to have a postpartum checkup until the baby is six weeks old. However, away from the professionals, he told me that there are other ways to make it easier. It doesn’t have to be penetration,” said the woman, who said that even when he was sick, on his period or visibly exhausted from childcare, Michael’s sexual appetite was “relentless.”
She admits that she had never heard of sex addiction and instead convinced herself that she was a failure as a wife because she did not accept constant advances. “I felt more and more like a piece of meat, and my private parts often hurt; my joints hurt because he insisted on moving me into different positions.”
She stopped dressing up, didn’t wash her hair for days, changed her tight trousers and dresses to tracksuits, but even this did not reduce Michael’s desire to have sex with his wife.
After several sessions with a psychologist, he gained the strength to move into a guest room. But the last straw came one spring morning when she found Michael in his bed. “I asked him what the hell he was doing and he said, ‘Last night I realized you wanted me,’ which was a complete lie.”
The woman managed to muster up courage, told the children about what was happening and asked for a divorce. He went to a sexual health clinic to find out if Michael was indulging in his sex addiction with other women or even prostitutes. It was important for this woman to show her two daughters that being treated this way by a man was not normal, or for her son to think that doing what his father did was normal.
Author: morning Post
Source: CM Jornal
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